I am not blind to the fact that due to certain rules, at times it’s challenging to discipline few students but we (parents and teachers together) can still help! Yes we need to be even more mindful of our thoughts, actions, words, expectations, stressors, anxieties, personal and professional conflicts. There has to be clear and mindful coordination between parents and teachers.
It breaks my heart when I see a few parents and teachers blaming each other for so called “out of control kids”. However, in this miscommunication, kids suffer the most in their childhood as well as in their adulthood.
The Busy Syndrome
Situations like these raise the question, “what happened in past few decades and how did these kids reached this stage?” Kids are like a little sponge, and they are learning from all of the adults around them. Are you too busy to talk to them? If you are, then my next question is, “What are you doing that you are busy?” Maybe you’re earning to support “the family”. But what if there is no family bonding left to enjoy because you are busy earning money?
In many cases, parents don’t have a chance to plan the resources such as mental, emotional, social, and financial before getting married or having children. Who do you blame for this situation? Do you blame your parents, grandparents, teachers, the economy, or the president? Perhaps it’s the simple, mindless, lifestyle over generations which possibly is the result of misplaced priorities. This is always a topic for provocative discussion with parents.
What can you do to break this cycle?
Now that children are present in the family, do we want to turn them into adults like the majority of present day adults? Not really. Again, we have to break this cycle.
Here are some things you can do:
- Start talking to them and spend quality time with them
- share with them the positive history of family members
- teach them how to manage their needs and desires
They also have to learn to think, talk, focus, and reach out to resources which can help them produce quality thoughts.
Become a Mindful Leader
At home, the head of the family is the leader. In a classroom, the teacher is the leader and in school the Principal is the leader. A leader has to have a vision, a plan, and the ability to share with the members of her/his respective group. When we stand alone (check ego), at times we feel helpless. But when we think like a leader, we always find someone out of the group, to share our concerns or seek help from to stay on the right track.
If you grew up without a leader at home or school, seek brief help. Get your power back and become the leader yourself. Your inner self (present and future), family, friends, and team members will be grateful to you! Break the cycle of uncertainty and stress. Let’s try to create high quality environments and great leaders within our homes and schools!
I am practicing Mindfulness and ready to bring the change, are you?
Ask me if you have any questions.