On April 29th, 2015, I had an opportunity to represent Dr. Harish Malhotra, MD and talk about the importance of good Mental Health by using a Recovery Model. Dr. Malhotra is a great Psychiatrist and author of the books, “Metaphors of Healing” and “Pathways to Hope”.
We talked about the great Recovery Model that can come in handy while exploring and understanding what parts of our lives are doing well and what parts of our lives need some work, our strengths and weaknesses. It also gives a perspective to another person that when we make mistakes, that doesn’t make us the bad person; we just didn’t dig deeper in one of the dimensions. More importantly, if somebody makes a mistake, don’t dislike the whole person, just don’t accept the wrong behavior and if you have to, take a stand.
During the talk, a member in the audience mentioned that her partner is a Mental Health worker and that at times, “she comes to me for help when exhausted or emotionally burnt out”. “Is that okay, because I have my own mental health issues?” At that moment, I mentioned that it’s absolutely healthy to seek help when needed from family and friends.
However, it is also equally important to be aware of the support group/members’ strengths and weaknesses. For example, if in your support group, you have three people A, B, C and out of them A’s strength is financial matters. You encounter a problem and need emotional support. Will it be fair with yourself and with A to seek help from one another? You and A will end up getting frustrated, which will result in a strained relationship, when it could have easily been avoided. THINK!
During this event, the audience was a wonderful group of people who took time out of their busy schedules to share their journeys and to listen and participate in other people’s journeys. Every single person was an advocate or aspiring to be an advocate of well being with a special focus on Mental Health that evening. This evening reminded me of past group therapy sessions at Rutgers where I mentioned that every person who is seeking help is an advocate, not only for her/his mental health but also of her/his life.
Take care of yourself and then others
I believe when you take care of yourself, that doesn’t only help you, it helps your immediate family and friends. It also helps your community and on a macro level, the state, country, and the world. Yes, we are supposed to think on a macro level and work on the micro levels to achieve our goals.
Whatever we do, it contributes towards human involution and evolution!
When you take good care of yourself, whichever way that you can, you become the inspiring and aspiring drop in the pot (world) to fellow beings who will stay hydrated and afloat.
As a human being and a Mental Health professional with a Holistic approach, I am very grateful to you dear reader especially if you are taking good care of yourself or you are wanting or planning to do so.
Become that drop, keep filling the pot, and keep inspiring others!